Swimming, sailing and sex
We’ve just heard about a new group called Swinger Sailing Adventures. It’s run by a swinging couple who organize sailing holidays for small groups of swingers (4 couples max). Their trips sail to exotic locations for a relaxing holiday: totally naked swimming, snorkeling, sunbathing and with the added bonus of erotic, sexy fun with likeminded couples. Sounds like an incredible way to have a holiday and we’re sure the atmosphere would get really hot in this environment.
The question occurred to us that it might be difficult to know if you are going to “get on” with the other couples on the boat. After all, it’s a pretty small group. However, the organizers assure us that there is a very strict “compatibility test” and they go to a lot of trouble to select only those they think will get on well. Of course, there is no pressure anyway and the usual swinging rules apply.
Their next holiday is planned for New Caledonia in June. New Caledonia is a French colony in the South Pacific and is surrounded by the largest lagoon in the world. It is also quite unspoilt and with 150 listed anchorages there are lots of deserted bays and islands to explore.
And the exciting part…..We’re booked – why not join us? I believe there are places left. It’s a cool couple who are organizing it and the cost is pretty reasonable – certainly a lot less than at a luxury resort and a lot more fun.
To find out more, visit their website www.swingersailingadventures.com. Tell them we sent you!
We’re certainly counting down to this trip. It’s going to be incredible….!
Finally some friends – and our first separate room experience
Annette says:
If you have been following this blog you will probably know that we have been looking for a couple that we connect with on more than a sexual level.. someone that we can have a good laugh with and that we would want to meet with not just for sex…. Well we both think we have meet them and last weekend we spent the whole weekend with them and it was great 
We meet Sue and Allan briefly over a coffee earlier this year and all felt that we connected so when the opportunity finally came we decided to spend the weekend together. It was really great to actually get to know someone better.. and to feel at the end of the weekend that there is more to them to get to know.
I know … you just want to hear the sex part… don’t you? Well here is comes…..
Well as time went on and we all were comfortable chatting and laughing.. so in the afternoon I thought I would test the waters and show Allan that I was interested… so under the table I gently and slowly ran my toes up his leg and down again.. and well that instantly got the reaction I had hoped for – the connection was made!
While preparing dinner.. Allan came over and gave my bum some well needed attention and I could tell that I was getting turned on.. Dinner was very pleasant and we were all getting a bit turned on – knowing what was waiting for all of us. By now we felt very comfortable with each other when Allan suddenly said: “We normally play separate room – how do you feel about it?” … Well we have never done that before and have only briefly discussed it. Anyway our eyes spoke and we were both keen to try.. with that sorted.. we put some music on and started dancing… fondling… kissing.. and boy was I getting hot..
I was watching Andrew and he looked like he was enjoying the ‘dance’ with Sue and he was certainly not holding back and in no time Sue had her tits out! and they were off to the bedroom. Allan took his time getting me out of my corsage and I could tell that he enjoyed my tits on his chest while kissing. We then decided to move on to the other bedroom…. unfortunately Allan had to take some medicine earlier that effected his performance, but we did do a lot if fondling, kissing and we took advantage of the erection when it was there…
At one point I went to Andrew and Sue to get some lube… they looked pretty relaxed and were having a break (what I didn’t know at the time was that they had finished round 1 and were gearing up to round 2 – but Andrew can tell that story). With the lube we proceeded to some nice hand jobs .. I love lube.. I managed to instruct Allan to concentrate on my clit and not my vagina – and it worked to some degree. For some reason I find it very difficult to climax with other people and I only get to a certain level and can’t seem to get past that but it is still very nice.
Later we all meet in the lounge and had a chat before we all went to bed where… Andrew was still a bit turned on (lucky me) so he made me climax with his excellent tongue technique and fucked me with his wonderful hard cock… before we collapsed in a heap – only to hear similar action from the other bedroom…
What a wonderful experience 
Andrew says:
Mmmm….well I’m so glad you enjoyed it, Annette….because I did too. I didn’t know about you sliding your toes up Allan’s leg or him fondling you in the kitchen…. I guess I need to spend more time there, particularly if you are in there alone with another man!
Yes the after dinner play was exciting. I remember doing a bit of a dance with Annette rubbing me from behind and Sue pressing into me from the front. I was getting hard already. When Allan suggested we play separate rooms I didn’t know what Annette’s reaction woulds be and I was pleased when the look on her face said, “I just want him to fuck me!”. It got me even more turned on.
Sue was certainly pretty hot and enjoyed kissing. She seemed a bit nervous (weren’t we all…) but I could feel her warming up…. We soon left Annette and Allan in the lounge and headed for the bedroom. From there she lost no time in getting rid of the rest of her clothes. I pulled her down onto the bed and we started to kiss. After bringing her off with my tongue and fingers she returned the favor by wrapping her mouth around my cock and sucking me vigorously. By this stage I was very wet but I managed to hold on. Sue then climbed on top of me and her pumping up and down and was too much and I exploded inside her.
All the while I couldn’t help wondering how Annette and Allan were getting on. There was no sound from the lounge so I knew they had moved to the other bedroom. When they reappeared later she looked pleasantly satisfied. It was such a turn on knowing she had been with another guy and imagining him exploring her body (and vice versa). It meant my passion certainly wasn’t spent and I knew I had to have her myself later that night….. As I lay on top of her we could here Sue’s moans from the other room…. seems she and Allan were having the same thoughts.
What a fun weekend! You’re right, Annette, it wasn’t just about the sex – but it was the icing on the cake.
The Couple in the Sauna
Andrew says:
We met John and Becky at our favorite place: online. After all, for busy people who aren’t into hitting the bars every Friday night, where else DO you meet nice, fun and likeminded people, especially couples? We met them a couple of times and they were attractive and good company. It was obvious things were going in the ‘right’ direction and a few weeks later they invited us for the evening.
After a nice meal at a local Japanese restaurant, it was back to their place for some more drinks. Then they invited us to have a sauna. We’d never experienced a sauna in someone’s home before, and what a great idea! After all, getting naked can be one of the most awkward moments of a sexual encounter – who makes the first move? With a sauna of course you all have a reason for getting your clothes off.
So it was into the sauna and, amidst some friendly chatter, we were able to check each other out. They both looked as nice without clothes as with… I could sense Annette checking out John’s attributes and I myself was quite happy to get any eyeful of Becky’s lovely body.
Pretty soon the conversation turned sexual….. sharing past experiences and what we liked. Mmmm…it was starting to get really steamy in there!
So it was out, a quick shower and then into the bedroom….
With the ice broken (literally) by the sauna, we all enjoyed some relaxing fun. What happened you ask? Wel I could leave that to your imagination. But suffice to say that the sight of Annette on her back, legs spread and her hand wrapped around John’s cock as she guided it into her pussy as I was licking out Becky’s pussy is something that still makes me hard when I think about it.
Cheers for saunas!
Thanks but no thanks
We met a couple for a drink in a bar last night. We’d chatted a bit online and seemed to have enough in common to warrant a meet to see if there was any potential. We straight off I knew they just weren’t attractive, not to me anyway and I could sense the same from Annette.
Nevertheless, they were interesting and good company. We chatted away happily.
However, when it was time to go there was an awkward silence. It seemed as if they were expecting us to go back to their place. They had dropped a few hints to that effect.
However, we thanked them for their time and parted company. Nothing much was said; just a “Thank you. Nice to meet you. Goodnight.” But we could see the disappointment in their eyes as we left.
We talked about it later and couldn’t help but ask ourselves, “What is it that creates attraction?”
Obviously the meeting was with the intention in everyone’s minds that if there was a spark things might have gone further. So what put us off?
Well for a start there just wasn’t a spark there. But there were other factors that could have made a big difference and they were the way this couple approached the whole meeting. It really comes down to putting in some effort to making yourselves be attractive. Such things as:
1) Put some effort into your appearance. Dress up, be clean shaven (guys face I mean!), wear makeup ladies, wear some nice clothes and especially shoes.
2) Be interested rather than try to be interesting. Ask the other couple about themselves and be a good listener. Look for common points of interest. Don’t be too opinionated.
3) Be a bit flirty. Create some sexual tension rather than waiting for it to happen.
We realized the couple we met did none of these things. It all comes down to one thing – putting in a bit of effort which shows some sensitivity and respect.
Its actually very like going out on a date as a single person.
If they had done this would it have changed the outcome for this particular evening? Not sure, but it may well have done…….
Anyway, we haven’t reported on any adventures for a little while here. Sorry about that; we have been busy with other things. But we have had a couple of other interesting experiences just lately which we will tell you about soon. Stay tuned!
Are Men More Interested in Swinging Than Women?
In our swinging adventures we come across lots of singles. Many of them are married and are wanting to have some sexual adventure because either their partner has lost interest in sex or they have lost interest in their relationship. However, why is it that the great majority of them seem to be men? Is it because:
1) men are more interested in group sex and swinging than women?
2) men are more interested in sex in general than women?
3) men are more prepared to do something about trying swinging without their partner knowing than women?
Whatever the reason, it’s also sad that so many people in a relationship aren’t on the same sexual wavelength as their partner. Maybe things used to be good and they just drifted apart. It all seems pretty sad.
If you’re a guy (or a girl) and you would like to try swinging but your partner won’t, what’s the reason behind it? And would you go behind their back to try swinging or sex with others?
Drop us a line -we’d love to hear your thoughts.
And don’t forget to read Mike Andrews’ great book, “How To Turn Your Partner Into a Swinger” at www.becomeaswinger.com. It’s an eye opener and will give you a step by step plan that can really get your partner into it as well.
How To Create Sizzling Sex in Your Relationship
Well, saw an awesome video course yesterday…..a Five Step Plan to creating nerve-tingling passion and sex in your relationship. The information was very different…. a lot better than most of the stuff out there which gives you techniques on giving better orgasms, etc, and which mostly doesn’t work.
The five steps dealt with creating some psychological shifts which gets the relationship on a whole new – and very sexual – course.
Very well explained …. and the videos are free too.
We recommend you check it out at www.moreandbettersex.com
Take care
Andrew & Annette
I think sex is wonderful.. do you?
Annette says:
I know it has been a while since our last post, but that doesn’t mean that we have not been active… Oh no… it just means that we have been very busy with other things in our lives
But I want to ask you something.. but first the background story:
The other night we met up with a couple that we have seen before but not played with. It was a nice evening, we went out for dinner and had lots of laughs.. so we were all very relaxed and comfortable.. We finally found the bed and it was very kissy and touchy and nice. The other guy was obviously turned on and came over to me and started kissing me and then he went down on me and positioned him self there and went straight for the delicate bits with his tongue and placed a finger (or two) inside me and used the in/out motion vigorously. Now I am very blessed to have a partner that is very interested in me being pleasured and tries lots of different techniques - watches my reaction – and corrects until he feels that I am in ecstasy (thank you darling ). But this guy did not have a clue about how to pleasure me with his tongue and fingers and I started wondering how I could make him stop without hurting his feelings.. and then it occurred to me that this is the reason why women fake orgasms!! To make the man stop whatever he is doing and get it over with fast. As I was lying there I looked over at his wife and my Andrew I couldn’t help but feel a bit jealous.. she was obviously enjoying the attention she was getting from Andrew.. but I felt that she deserved it too . I decided to push him away just to go down on him to give him a good seeing to.. in the way that I know Andrew likes it (lots of tongue action) and he definitely
responded well to that… fortunately he was a lot better at the penetration part and I really enjoyed that.
This made me think and this is what I want to ask you…
- How do you tell a guy that what he is doing is not pleasurable, when he thinks that he is doing a great job?
- Is this the reason why it is a common myth that women don’t like sex as much as men – that women would rather not have sex than have bad sex?
- How great do you think you are at sex and why?
It would be great to hear from you and what you think… and give me some advice..
Three Key Steps to Getting Your Partner Interested in Swinging
(The following was contributed by Michael Andrews, author of “How To Get Your Lover Interested in Swinging” at www.swingwithyourwife.com)
Are you interested in trying swinging but your partner isn’t? Here are three key steps that will help you change their mind.
Swinging – when done the right way – can not only be great fun; it can also bring a couple much closer together in the intimacy of their relationship. This may seem counterintuitive but it is a clue on how to get your partner interested in swinging. It is also the reason why most people have little success in getting a partner interested who is reluctant to try it.
The first step is to realize that successful swinging is all about the two of YOU and your relationship. It is not to fill in any gaps in your sex life. In fact, swinging makes a great sex life even better; it does not make a bad sex life good. So if you are going to try to introduce your partner to swinging you should concentrate on improving the sex life between the two of you first.
This leads us to the second step, which is to really focus on your partner. Your goal here is to make them feel loved and adored, that they are the sexiest person in the world to you. You would never do anything to hurt them intentionally and they are certainly the best lover you could possibly ever imagine having. Some people find this difficult, especially if they have been in their relationship for some time. You may feel your attraction has waned for your partner. You might think your sex life has become boring, which is why you want to add some variety by swinging anyway. You need to turn this around. Try new things. Even do some of the things you used to do when you first got together. Anything becomes stale if no effort is put into it, and your sex life is just the same.
The third step is simply to keep reinforcing you attraction for your partner and building the trust between you. The more trust you can create by making your partner feel safe to be themselves and express themselves fully, the more they will know that your desire for more sexual adventure is not about ‘replacing’ them with someone else.
Many couples feel that getting involved with swinging will cause problems in their relationship such as jealousy. However, if you follow the above steps you will find that these problems just don’t arise. However, it is very important to keep the relationship between you as the most important thing; you just happen to involve other people from time to time to experience things you can’t do with just the two of you.
If you would like to become a swinger and your partner isn’t interested you will find the above steps a powerful way to start.
You can find the complete system which hundreds of people have used to get their partner interested in swinging at www.swingwithyourwife.com
Annette says:
Thank you Michael! All absolutely true. And we highly recommend your book to everyone who is having difficulty with partner resistance.
Reluctant Couple Syndrome
Is it just us? We have met with two couples in the last week who we seemed to really hit it off with. We enjoyed drinks with both of them and with the second couple we even had dinner in a cosy little restaurant. However, when it came to suggesting we take things to the next level, as it were, they both made excuses and bid farewell. It seems many people aren’t as willing as us to actually take action – or is there something wrong with us?
Not sure it can be the latter as we have also met with some couples who wanted to take things further and we didn’t. The difference, however, was that in those cases the attraction wasn’t mutual.
With the couples we did like, they also seemed to find us attractive. You could tell the chemistry was there. Both couples have said they want to catch up at a later date.
There is a huge difference between people who talk about doing something and actually doing it – and not just in the area of sexual fantasy either. Maybe we’re just too proactive for most people.
Anyway, we’ll keep trying. Despite the perception, finding regular playmates that you connect well with just isn’t that easy.
Tips on Getting Your Partner Interested in Swinging
Swinging can be a great activity for a couple to take part in. Done the right way, it need not be damaging to your relationship at all. In fact, the consensus amongst most ‘successful’ swingers is that it actually enhances their relationship and brings them closer together. However, while there are thousands of happy swinging couples worldwide, there are also many people in a relationship who would like to try swinging but who have a partner who is not keen. Their attitude may be from simply not interested to being totally negative about the idea. If you have a wife or husband in this category, don’t despair. Your dream of being swingers need not die.
The first thing you must do is not get angry or upset with your wife or husband’s reaction if you bring up the idea of being swingers. Trying to plead with them or in any way coerce them into trying it will not only get no positive result, it could even harm your relationship. Even if you do get them to agree to try it this way, it will probably not be a pleasant experience for you both; you certainly won’t be able to relax and enjoy it.
When you introduce the idea of swinging, remember that your wife or husband will have beliefs about what swinging means and why you would want to try it. Does it mean you don’t find them attractive enough? Are you bored with your sex life? These thoughts may be going through their head. In fact, they may even fear that by becoming swingers you will find someone else more attractive than them and leave them!
So your whole focus in introducing swinging to your wife or husband is to remove their fears. You do this by letting them know that you love and adore them more than anyone else, and that your reason for wanting to try swinging is to enhance the sex life you already have with them. You need to let them know that swinging is not about replacing any gaps in your relationship. It is all about adding some spice and sharing the experience together. You could even let them know that because you find them so attractive and sexy, seeing them turning someone else on would be highly arousing for them.
Also make sure that you make your wife or husband feel safe in your sexual relationship. Build up their trust in you. Let them now that you would never hurt them or allow them to be hurt in a swinging situation. If you approach the idea of swinging with your partner in this way you not only have a much greater chance of taking part in the swinger lifestyle, but of you both enjoying it as well.
For more information on the best way to introduce your partner to swinging, read “How To Introduce Your Lover To Swinging” at www.swingwithyourwife.com
