We’d be willing to bet that nearly everyone – even the most sexually unadventurous – have sexual fantasies. In fact, it’s probably ‘abnormal’ not to. And a lot of those fantasies would certainly include situations in which you and/or your partner are sexually involved with others.
But going from fantasy to reality seems a different story. In fact there seem to be four types of people:
1) those who don’t talk about their fantasies, or even admit they have them
2) those who talk about them but never intend to do anything about them
3) those who talk about them and say they’re going to do something, but never do
4) those who actually get to experience their fantasies
The last group seem to be in a small minority and this presents another challenge for that group: how do you actually find people you want to swing with?
We’ve met loads of couples (online mainly) who are swingers, but the number of them we’ve actually ‘played with’ is very few. And I think that’s the case for most swingers. The reality is that there has to be some chemistry or it to work, and it’s just not that easy.
If you’re in that situation – don’t give up! Keep looking and you will find people you can have a lot of fun with. That’s certainly what we’re going to do!
Andrew & Annette